I think it’s an important topic to write about, especially from the perspective of someone who loves Jesus. And, frankly, I’m pretty sure it’s something you wanna read about. So, from one girl to another…
Let’s talk about relationships. Specifically those concerning guys–both the just-friends and the more-than-just-friends guys in your life.
I’m by no means a relationship expert. At all. But, I like to think I’ve learned a thing or two that you may find helpful in your journey. So, here are some of my thoughts on relationships, summed up into one-liners–with hopes that, they’ll spark some conversations between you and Holy Spirit.
Take a deep breath and read on.
*Attraction at first sight is real, but genuine loves takes time and energy to cultivate.
*Don’t waste your time trying to “make a boy like you”–if you have to earn a guy’s affection, he’s not worth it.
*While hints are cute and sometimes helpful,clear communication is usually the most effective.
*If you’re afraid a guy is gonna judge you for eating seconds, why are you dining with him?
*Texting is a great, but sometimes, it’s better to just pick up the phone and call.
*How does he handle anger?
*No guy should ever try to pressure or threaten you into going further (emotionally or physically) than you feel comfortable with.
*If a guy keeps pushing boundaries, it may be time to reconsider this relationship. And investing in pepper spray.
*How does he handle challenges/difficult circumstances?
*Relationships with people that inspire and challenge you are awesome.
*Learning how to have healthy disagreements is a smart idea.
*You can learn a lot about a guy by observing how he treats his family–especially his mama.
*Does he support you and encourage you to walk in the fullness of what God has for you?
*Having parents or another spiritual leader involved in your relationship can help things go much more smoothly.
*Being rooted in your identity in Christ is a MUST for healthy relationships (especially of the guy/girl kind).
*You are a solid 10, girl. Own it. And if you’re gonna date a guy, make sure he treats you like the princess you are.
*Flirting and texting all the time don’t make him your best friend.
*Confrontation and difficult discussions are inevitable–be courageous enough to speak the truth in love.
*How does he navigate confrontation?
* You will never complete someone, or be their savior. That’s Jesus’ role, honey.
*Recognizing areas of personal immaturity (especially when it comes to relationships), is actually a really mature thing to do.
*Actions speak louder than words.
Welp, that was a novel.
Here’s the bottom line: In all of your relationships, place Jesus between you and the other person. Seriously. Filter your thoughts and speech and actions and emotions through Holy Spirit–submitting to His leadership and allowing Him to direct your path.
Here’s hoping you found this post encouraging, and it gave you some things to ponder! At the very least, can we all take a moment to admire that adorable picture of Mickey and Minnie?