It’s crazy to think about how much we miss. We become so caught up in our agendas and personal wants, that we miss the silent signals people are constantly sending us. Not everything can be taken at face value–underneath the surface is an entirely new level of depth.
Allow me to explain where I’m going here.
Sometimes people need a second glance. Especially those snobby, brainless, or downright obnoxious people.
We’ve all encountered individuals who are…more difficult to be around than others. And it’s so easy to allow their shortcomings to harden our hearts towards them, or try to block them out as much as possible. In fact, at one point or another, all of our friends or acquaintances have at least mildly frustrated us with their behavior. And, if we’re not looking carefully enough, we tend to judge those people based on their surface actions. Judging, in the sense that, we end up labeling them or “putting them in a box”.
But boxes only show so much.
” Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.”~ John 7:24
Many times, if we made the effort to look deeper, we’d realize that there’s something totally different going on under the surface. We’d be able to see past the quirks and find the root of the behavior. Because, usually, irritating behavior is just a result or cover up of a deeper heart matter. There’s a saying that goes, “Hurting people, hurt people.” Meaning that, people who are hurting on the inside are often the very people who end up hurting others most.
I’m not saying that you have to go and take every single person under your wing, or that you should try to psychoanalyze all of your friends actions. What I am stating, is that we need to learn to listen and see with Jesus’s ears and eyes. We need to ask Holy Spirit for grace to look past the quirkiness and see the person’s heart. Once we have an idea of what’s going on inside, we’re then able to ask the Father what our next move should be. Through the grace of God, we’re able to grow in compassion for that person and to learn how to handle our hearts well towards them.
Did you catch that last part? By learning to look at others as Jesus does, you can end up growing more. That’s why I call trying situations and people “gifts”. They’re God-given opportunities to show us our own selfish/unloving tendencies and to choose to love another as Jesus does– causing us to grow.
” A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”~ John 13:34-35
Has the Lord given you any “gifts” recently? How do you think He wants you to handle them?